Life Is Pointless; It Really Is

Caution: If you're suicidal, please do not read this post. I beg you. I'm going to be as candid as I can be and it might even depress you further.


People who are single and childless....what do you have to live for? What’s keeping you alive? I honestly want to know. - @LadyBeastB on Twitter


There's no point to life. This is what I believe. We all go through life just trying to figure out what makes us content; trying to find joy.
Now there are so many questions around this. Why did we even have to be born in the first place? Do we all have "a divine purpose"? How do we figure out what makes us happy; where do we start? Lol I say to answer these questions, let us take a critical look at how we are generally socialised.

Why did we even have to be born in the first place?
Well, because generations before us have glorified childbearing. Our parents either wanted to have children because they thought it would win them "respectability points" in the eyes of society, or because it had been a "personal desire" of theirs to experience parenthood. And in cases where our parents didn't even want to have us, a lot of them still had to succumb to the fear - and reality - of being judged or prosecuted just for even thinking of aborting the pregnancy. None of the three reasons btw, had anything to do with us. This is why I find it quite baffling that people are so grateful for being born like it was such a huge favour done them. Like hell, I'd take not being born over this any day.
Life is so hardcore that even the richest among us have all had those moments they wondered to themselves what the hell they were doing on this earth lol.
On my birthday, I'd rather my parents are celebrated and congratulated; my being born was their "accomplishment"/deed and had nothing to do with me.


Do we all have "a divine purpose"?
Lmao nope. That construct is just bs, I'm sorry. Again, just what I believe.
It makes for good consolation in times of great despair though. To be convinced that there's some ultimate fulfillment to attain. To believe that there's a mission bestowed upon us by the Almighty Himself that we're yet to discover. What usually happens is, we experience some confusion - often temporary - about what that purpose could be. Then we encounter a realisation that "discovering our purpose" is actually something which requires work. It will require prayer, exploring our talents, travelling, working on building ourselves etc. So basically, it will require actually "living". Lol yh, we've been given a divine reason to live, and to attain that purpose, we have to "live". We'll probably eventually find something we really enjoy doing and go like, "yes! this is my purpose in life". That's basically how it works, and I think I've answered part of the third question here.

How do we figure out what makes us happy; where do we start?
Well, we've already started - ok more like, "been started". Our socialisation begins from birth. Who we are at every point in our lives is just a culmination of everything we've been through(upbringing + experiences + exposures) up until that point. I'm saying, what we may one day find joy in will be something that would meet the needs of the person we would've become by that time. So it's not a question of where to start, it's a question of how to continue. It's really a question of whether or not we are willing to allow ourselves to continue experiencing stuff no matter how uncomfortable they may be within the moment, whether or not we are willing to continue exposing ourselves to new things even though we seem to always land ourselves in trouble, and whether or not we are willing to take up the responsibility of building our personal capacities as people - making ourselves as versatile as possible.
I believe this is how we'd eventually find our "reason to live". A place we get to and we don't want to leave.


But . . .
I don't know if all that effort is worth it tbh. Feels like trying to find reasons to stay in an abusive relationship.
Life in itself is abusive, and if you think "walking away" is what you have to do, I just cannot fault you. More so if you feel so lonely and doubt if anyone is really going to miss you when you're gone.
All I'll say is, hold on for as long as you can. Think of all the things you'd miss if you leave.
What's the next big series? Could it surpass GOT? What does 5G technology have in store for us? Are robots really going to take over the world? Who'll be Ghana's first female president? When is Liverpool finally going to win the premier league? Lol that last one will keep you around for quite some time.
There's so much worth witnessing for our generation, aren't you curious? Come on, stay and watch chale(mate). I'm just looking forward to when we'll have TV stations in Ghana dedicated to showing porn. Hehe.

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